Marching Music

A special pre-move-ins edition: Tour Relationships!
May 19, 2008, 5:26 pm
Filed under: Drum & Bugle Corps

It’s hard to believe that it’s move-in time already!  My sister’s corps moved in last weekend and all of my friends at the Cadets move in this weekend!  Here’s something to seriously think about before you leave for the summer: tour relationships.

I’ve been in a decent number of such relationships and I’ve learned a lot.  Here are some helpful hints!

1. set the terms.  there’s nothing worse than saying goodbye on finals night and having misconceptions about how to proceed from that point.  if you intend to go the “what happens on tour stays on tour” route, then you both need to be thinking that.  at the same time, if you intend to make it a long term thing, which is definitely going to take a lot of work, then you both need to be on the same page as well.

2. keep it professional.  when you’re on the field, your significant other cannot exist.  in order for the corps you’re with to be successful, you need to make a distinction between play time and work time.  that sounds like common sense, but trust me.  it’s not.  DO NOT TAKE YOUR DRAMA/AFFECTION ON THE FIELD WITH YOU!  rehearsal and pre-show must be focused and reserved for hard work.  post-show, bus time and meal time are acceptable outlets for your relationship needs. 

3. have an escape plan.  hopefully it won’t happen to you, but you need to think ahead of time what you might do in certain situations.  if (and this happens more often than you might realize) you should break up on tour and end up on bad terms, how will you remove yourself and not let the situation affect your performance?  it might seem attractive now to be on the same crew as your significant other or to be “seat partners.”  make sure that you have other friends to fall back on if things go awry.  if you “hang out” exclusively with your significant other, then you will have few to no friends if and when the fun is over. 

4. hope for the best and plan for the worst.  this doesn’t happen too often, but what if your significant other is sent home sick or injured on tour?  this is extremely upsetting.  again, it is for this reason that you MUST have friends other than your significant other.  this actually happened to me and i was incredibly thankful that i had other friends to lean on.  no matter how upset you are, you absolutely must eat!  again, common sense?  if you’re burning a few thousand calories a day, you need to eat or you’ll seriously mess yourself up. 

5. (this one goes for everything on tour, not just relationships.)  no matter what happens, in August it will be over.  don’t dwell on stupid things and don’t be overly dramatic.  it doesn’t help anyone.  in fact, it hurts everyone!

I really hope that this is helpful for anyone who reads it!  If you don’t believe it now, you will soon.  Hind-sight is 20/20!

Good luck!



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